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6 Things We Love About Adah

Second-Class Citizen is the brilliant and affecting novel by Nigerian author Buchi Emecheta, originally published in 1974 by Allison and Busby. From when she was a young girl, Adah was determined to be educated, become independent and free herself from the limiting hands of Nigeria and make something of herself in the UK.

Read more about the novel in the next post, Revealing Racist, Misogynistic and Xenophobic Oppression in Buchi Emecheta’s ‘Second-Class Citizen’

Here are 6 Things We Love About Adah

  • Her resilience: despite the physical and verbal abuse she got, her will remained sharp and focused. No number of beatings or berating could break her.
  • Her ambition: no matter how much and what it cost her, she was willing to become educated and she did. She always looked at the future with a vision that said she could make something of herself.
  • Her parenting skills. Despite not wanting to have more children but still falling pregnant, she loved and cherished her children, and was a brilliant parent who prioritised her children’s needs.
  • Her independent spirit. Adah could have been married off to a man who would provide for her, but she was her own provider, she followed her own path, built her own career, and made her own money.
  • She always showed up. Adah’s discipline shows in so many ways; when she was unwell, pregnancy ailments, problems in the house, she put on her shoes, worked, and did what needed to be done.
  • Adah’s tenacity was commendable. When she said she wanted to go to school, to get a well-paying job, to find herself a home, to go to London, and others, she kept her focus on her goals and went at it with such force and unflagging determination.

Although an independent woman, educated, hardworking and intelligent, she’s still subjected to the so-called duties of a wife that are designed to suit patriarchal principles. There are other things about this character that aren’t so favourable but the above outweigh them and made me forget about the negatives.

Swallow: Efunsetan Aniwura

By Ayodele Olofintude

The story follows the lives of two women, Efunsetan and Efunporonye, who after almost getting married go their separate ways and take us on a fascinating reimagination of Yoruba history and culture. Swallow is centred on queer characters and powerful women, who hold their own in a male-dominated world, during the colonial period.

These are women who oversaw their own lives, their financial affairs, commanding, and leading. Through this story we learn about these two figures, who did in fact, exist in real life. They may have made enemies along the way, but they still managed to own their power persistently, and fearlessly.

An inspiring and illuminating read, and I cannot wait for the next book of the series.

Motherhood, in ‘Mom & Me & Mom’ by Maya Angelou

“My mother’s gifts of courage to me were both large and small. The latter are woven so subtly into the fabric of my psyche that I can hardly distinguish where she stops and I begin.”
― Maya Angelou

I’ve read I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings and A Song Flung Up To Heaven, two of the seven books of Maya Angelou’s autobiography series. This one, Mom & Me & Mom still tells her story but with her mother as the backdrop.

After a failed marriage, Vivian Baxter and Bailey Johnson sent three-year-old Maya and her five-year-old brother Bailey Junior to live with their grandmother in Stamps, Arkansas. At thirteen she moved back to California to live with her mother.

Mom & Me & Mom takes from Maya’s journey to appreciating her mother, and how their relationship grows. Vivian Baxter may have been a terrible mother to toddlers but she was an exceptional mother to this young woman, Maya. When her brother wants to know why she left them, her honesty teaches us something about parenthood and its struggles:

“I would have been a terrible mother. I had no patience. Maya, when you were about two years old, you asked me for something. I was busy talking, so you hit my hand, and I slapped you off the porch without thinking. It didn’t mean I didn’t love you; it just meant I wasn’t ready to be a mother.”

This is one of my favourite parts of the story, this honest explanation. There’s this general belief that once one becomes a mother, she automatically connects with her child, and being the best mother will come naturally. That’s far from the truth. Eggs may be ripe, the machine may work right, the womb might be warm and cosy enough but motherhood is not for everyone – some shouldn’t be mothers, some learn along the way, some struggle to even connect with their children for a while.

One also has to appreciate how she re-enters her children’s lives. She doesn’t use her title as a mother to reclaim some ruling spot in their lives, by forcing the relationship or forcing to close the gap between their time in Arkansas and when they return to California. She just begins to mother them, as best as she can.

The story is so moving in how her mother becomes her rock through everything. At the different stages in her life, from when she went to live with her, Ms. Baxter was there and when she wasn’t physically there Maya could always pick up the phone and her mother could straighten things.

However, things don’t turn out as wonderful for her brother Bailey Junior, as they do for Maya. The maternal neglect doesn’t go away for him no matter what efforts their mother puts in. He goes through a troubled journey, drugs, and for him, the wound doesn’t seem to heal.

Things turn out differently for Maya. You can tell from their journey together that her mother played a pivotal role in shaping the Maya Angelou that the world got to know. If you think Dr. Angelou was a phenomenal woman, then read this book and meet Vivian Baxter, a mother a lot of us need.

“I will look after you and I will look after anybody you say needs to be looked after, any way you say. I am here. I brought my whole self to you. I am your mother.” – Vivian Baxter to Maya.

The autobiography:

  • I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings
  • Gather Together in My Name
  • Singin’ and Swingin’ and Gettin’ Merry Like Christmas
  • The Heart of a Woman
  • All God’s Children Need Travelling Shoes
  • A Song Flung Up to Heaven
  • Mom & Me & Mom