We Should All Read ‘The Power of Women’ by Dr Denis Mukwege

Nobel Peace Prize winner, Dr Mukwege is a Congolese gynaecologist who specialises in treating injuries from rape, and an awe-inspiring advocate of women’s rights. The Power of Women is a harrowing account of his professional and personal journey of witnessing the heinous crimes against women, and their strength and resilience through all their traumatic experiences.

There’s often this narrow-minded belief that men who speak out against the injustices against women, or who are feminists, are ‘thinking and behaving like women’, along with the pressure for these men to justify themselves and their sexuality whenever they stand up for women’s rights. Therefore, this book is so important and a necessary read for men. If one does not see the urgent need to have more men like Dr Mukwege, after all the stories of the suffering inflicted on women, and how rape is used as a social and political tool, then we’re swimming in deep shit.

Dr Mukwege’s stories show the many ways women’s bodies are used as a deliberate power tactic in war, to make a political statement and to abuse power. However, the pages aren’t all dark and heart-breaking stories. He shows women’s power, their inspiring ability to find a reason to continue living and a new meaning to life, even after experiencing violence that destroys them in all ways imaginable. The ability to start over, and rebuild when everything has been taken away from them.

He also suggests many ways we, as society, can make the necessary changes. One of them is the need for a functioning justice system that listens to victims and deals with the tormenters in an effective way. He also suggests a cultural shift, breaking the silence and smashing taboos associated with sexual abuse and women’s bodies. Stripping out sexist language that refers to the honour, chastity, and modesty of women, is also another way.

There is so much to take in, to learn and to take with you when reading this book. It is a powerful stand against the disregard of women’s lives. It is thought-provoking, inspiring, distressing, and highly important.

I urge you to read it. Everyone needs to read it.

Another interesting book similar to this one is Women’s Liberation and the African Freedom Struggle by Thomas Sankara.

Thomas Sankara on Why Women Hold Up the Other Half of the Sky.

Lessons from Women’s Liberation and the African Freedom Struggle

On March 8th, 1987, Thomas Sankara addressed a rally of women in Ouagadougou, Burkina Faso and every word of his speech should be repeated across the world for all men and women to hear.

He digs out the roots of African women’s oppression and lays out the reasons and ways in which the revolutionists must and can fight to eradicate this oppression. In this small illuminating book, Sankara pays attention to the different spheres of the injustice against women.

In his overall message, he stresses how the revolution cannot triumph without the emancipation of women, and that the hope for a positive transformation of our society is heavily affected by the fight for women’s liberation. Without this fight, the revolution for Africa loses its meaning.

The liberation of women should not be an act of charity as their condition in society is at the heart of the question of humanity itself. Nothing lasting can be accomplished for as long as the subjugation of women exists.

He reminds us of how women followed men in order to care for and raise all that they care for. This self-sacrifice has been massively exploited by men. Sankara dives into the subject of class exploitation and its parallelism to women’s oppression. He reminds us to pay attention to the fact that in addition to class exploitation, under which men and women are subjected, women also have to deal with particular exploitation from men. The man can be as heavily oppressed as possible but he still has another human being to oppress – the woman.

He confronts men on many issues that need to be changed. One of them is that men will take a woman’s particular attributes and use them against her, such as her tenderness, her love for her family and loved ones, the meticulous care she applies to her work, and her other most moral and delicate qualities. The irresponsible husbands who use up their wages on mistresses and only serve to make bars and brothels richer. He also makes a good point on prostitution: that in order for it to exist it needs the pimp and the “prostitute”, and that the men who frequent these places, using women and discarding them, are the ones who will keep their wives and girlfriends in a “pure” position while frowning upon the others. A partial form of respect, which is actually no respect for women at all.

Sankara demands that women be placed at the front lines and given full responsibility. They need to be involved on all levels when it comes to organising the life of the nation as a whole. Society should stop keeping women away from anything that is serious and of consequences, it should stop limiting them to petty and minor activities. In entrusting women with more meaningful responsibilities, men should also give their respect and be more considerate.

Other crucial points he makes are those concerning the differences in the way children are raised. The boy is taught to be assertive, to speak up, to be served, to desire and take, and to decide things on his own. The girl, on the other hand, is confined to a psychological straitjacket and is taught to seek male protection and supervision.

He challenges the specific oppression against married women, single women, and educated women. The married woman is subjected to mind-deadening and all-consuming housework which leaves her with little time and energy to think and engage in anything of consequence. Sankara questions the men who don’t accept their wives being politically involved and taking up bigger social roles. The narrow-minded, jealous, vain, banal, pitiful, and insignificant men.

Society should put an end to ostracising the single and unmarried woman and wanting to push her to become the property of a man. The educated woman should not be viewed as a suspect and socially deemed as unable to secure a man. We should stop passing merciless judgment on educated and independent women, and condemning them to eternal singlehood. He says that “if the marriage brings society nothing positive and does not bring them happiness, it should be avoided.” Marriage should be a choice that brings something positive and not a lottery to be won.

He calls for the transformation of mentalities, for both men and women. He urges women to be allowed to show society its flaws for not having confidence in them, on the political and economic level. It’s a necessary task for women to change the image they have of themselves too, and for men to also change their attitudes towards women, both are needed.

Quotes:

  • “Women assure the continuity of our people and the destiny of humanity.”
  •  “Every proud man, every strong man, draws his energy from a woman.”
  • “Women need men to win. And men need women’s victory to win.”
  • “At the side of every man, there is always a woman.”

Ayiti by Roxane Gay

A powerful collection of short stories that explore the Haitian diaspora experience.

For as long as I have seen or heard about Haiti in the media, it has always been a narrow narrative of a nation constantly plagued by extreme poverty, natural disasters, high aid dependence, soaring crime, and an unstable political climate. These views are not incorrect but they do not capture all that is about Haiti and its people.

“Millions in Haiti face hunger in 2020” – CNN

Then Gay comes in with fifteen short stories that vary in length, mostly written outside of the traditional short story methods, and she changes the narrative. Ayiti introduces us to stories we don’t hear about Haiti, it expands and reaches into the people’s lives, their traumatic, triumphant, and resilient experiences.

Many of the stories capture Haitian women’s experiences.

It dispels the many misconceptions that we have of the nation, while honestly and daringly showing us the depth of some of its people’s challenges and struggles.

Sweet on the Tongue is a deep and powerful story about a woman’s traumatic experience with rape. It examines the pain, the shame, and the silence, but it also shows the effort to overcome these difficulties, with support and love through such a challenging ordeal.

Motherfuckers is flash fiction, two pages about a fourteen-year-old immigrant who expresses his hate for the US, and his experience being taunted in school for his foreignness.

A woman was conceived in a river where many of her people were massacred and the sharp smell of blood has always been with her, her whole life. In this story, In the Manner of Water or Light, we get a deep and illuminating account of generational impact from what happened in what would be known as The Massacre River, an actual site of executions of Haitian families that did take place.

“The waters did not run deep. It was just a border between two geographies of grief.”

The stories examine what it means to be Haitian in Haiti and America, but one brief and bold story, The Harder they Come shows the experience and behaviour of American tourists in Haiti, from ignoring the troubled Haiti that is “out there” to the sexual encounters with the locals.

“They say they quite like this Haiti, so clean and calm, so pleasant, not at all like on CNN.”

There is so much in this gut-punching, authentic, and haunting collection. There is homosexuality – the hiding that results from fear of what will happen if seen or discovered, but also the boldness in finding moments and spaces to express themselves and enjoy their passions. There is also love and sensuality, deep within the complexities of economic adversities.

Gay is astute at creating these real characters that spring out of the pages and lead you into their world, providing such an intimate experience of their realities. She leaves you with something to think about through her clever, cutting, and compelling writing. It’s a beautiful book and every single one of the stories matters.

Roxanne Gay: TIME